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Kids - Parents- Let the strings attached

Rashmi Verma

Kids are the priceless gift from god in our life. They fill our world with happiness. Kids are like small plants; the way we grow them they will be like that. Like we take care of plant for good growth similarly kids need proper care and love. We need balanced love, care and discipline for child; excess of anything become spoiler e.g. if we fulfill all the demands of kids they will keep on demanding and this will be the first step of spoiling our own kid. Too much of love and care makes them dependent in all aspect rather than necessities, they will not grow properly and never learn struggle or put any effort, for them it will be become a routine to demand. All kids are lovable to their parents and they always want them to keep happy. The bad practice which we parent adopted that to keep our kids happy we keep an eye if it’s matching the social status and the demand which matches just presented to kids which is wrong.

So we have to grow our kids in such a way which has the essence of love, struggle, sharing, equality which can help them to be mentally strong and social to handle the problems of life as they grow and above all they should be positive. In current scenario many of us try make our kids perfect and put so much of pressure that they start hiding many things from parent, they have the fear from own parent and this is where we fail.

We will have to understand that all children are different and everyone cannot be topper. We have to give them space for self learning but this doesn’t mean that we should leave them in all aspects to learn. Its very balanced & friendly process to make them understand that mistakes are not the bad part but it helps us to learn. We must highlight all mistakes and counsel the children. We never have to take harsh step to make them learn in one day otherwise they will start hiding the simple things. Comparing them with other kids are another blunder which usually mold our own kid in to a less confident person.

In todays world where nuclear family and working parent are more in social set up, use of gadgets ,mobile phone, television become the routine and with the help of these things parents also get some time for them, so the demand keeps on increasing with latest versions with age of kids. This demand and supply process is made so smooth that there is no struggle for kids because of strings attached but these small kids after few years forget to accepts failure, do not accept ‘no’ and this becomes the high level of mental illness once they grow up. This is fact but we need to accept that failures are content of life and there is life after failures also. Let the kid experience ‘no’, let them learn to struggle, let them face failures because these small learning in early ages will be provided by in very balanced and soft way unless on maturity the world will suddenly give them in harsh way and may unbalance them.

In today’s socio - economic set up, I strongly suggest all parents that very limited leisure time is your boundary but once you are with kids don’t consider it just to enjoy by going mall, watch tv or keep checking emails but give some eye contact conversation with your kids. Let them develop confidence in you. Mobile, gadgets, video games are ok but both parents and kids are precious for each other ; let the small one talk to you and demand from you and rest you have to balance to make them grown slowly with strings attached.


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